We caregivers often find ourselves lost in the "Caregiver FOG." (Fear, Obligation, Guilt).
This caller to the show struggled with the obligation issue. One of the easiest ways to tell that is the language used: "I have to, I must, I'm supposed to, I'm stuck with it."
He wanted a checklist to help him do the minimal for his mother ...but I instead focused on the heart issues that seemed to lead him down the path of resentment.