Hope for the Caregiver

Caregivers and Delegating: Wisdom from Cal Turner, Jr.

Every caregiver struggles with asking for help—usually due to at least one of the following reasons:

• Guilt
• Embarrassment
• Shame
• Not knowing what help looks like
• Being afraid of asking for help ...and being refused
• Being afraid of asking for help and the person doing it wrong—creating a bigger mess
• Being afraid of the person helping for a season and then simply quitting

Regardless of why we won’t ask for help, it doesn’t negate the fact that we need help.  

Cal Turner, Jr. retired CEO of Dollar General, sat in on the show with us and talked about the skill of learning to delegate. 

"To delegate is to be a great leader, and it's one of the real test of you ...or anyone as a leader:  how well you delegate." Cal Turner, Jr.

Cal went on to say, "You don't always do it right, but you're always learning from doing it."

As a caregiver, how can you delegate something ...even a small thing ...today?

 

A Conversation With Cal Turner, Jr.

Cal Turner Jr., retired CEO of Dollar General, joined me in the studio live on June 3, 2018 to discuss his new book, My Father's Business. 

In this powerful interview on HOPE FOR THE CAREGIVER, Cal takes caregivers on a journey of unpacking Stewardship. Delegation. entrepreneurship and Leadership ...all in the context of being about our Father's business—whether in the business world or serving as a family caregiver.

"The heart is often a better problem solver than the mind."  - Cal Turner, Jr.

 

Acceptance Is Not Agreement

From the YOUR CAREGIVER MINUTE Series by author/radio host and 30-year family caregiver, Peter Rosenberger. Brought to you by Medi-Share  855-25-SHARE

Much of the heartache I’ve endured as a caregiver is a result my unwillingness to accept things as they are.  A friend once told me that acceptance doesn’t mean agreement. I may not agree with or like what I carry, witness, or endure, but I can accept that it is what it is …and be calmer while enduring it.  That doesn’t mean it’s fatalistic; it’s just realistic.

My wife helped teach me this when she lost both of her legs.  She didn’t like being a double-amputee, but it became her new reality. And striving against it or wishing something different wasn’t going to bring back her legs.

As caregivers, we can accept things without agreeing with them. In the process, we can live a little more peaceful with the often-chaotic events in our lives.

Do you want to sleep on these?

As caregivers, we have to sleep in uncomfortable places. The sofa, a chair, the floor ...and all of those could be in a hospital.  I recently saw these pillows stacked up on a dirty laundry container in the ICU of a hospital. 

I'm sure that they will all receive clean pillow cases, but tell me how you feel about that picture. Do you want to sleep on one of those?  Do you want your loved one to sleep on one of those?

We'd love to bring our own pillows from home, but hospitals have lots of things that can get on your pillow.  If only there was a wonderful pillow that you could WASH and DRY ...without it losing it's shape.

Peter and Mike Lindell, founder of MyPillow.com 

Well ...there is.  MyPillow.com.  800-946-2379

• 10 year warranty/guaranteed not to go flat
• 60 day money back guarantee
• Patented interlocking fill that adjusts to your individual sleep needs
• Washable/dryable
• USA/Minnesota made

ENTER Promo Code:  CAREGIVER and get 50% off the four pack which includes two travel anywhere pillows.

Author Kathy Howard

My interview with author/speaker Kathy Howard discussing her new book:  30 Days of Hope When Caring for Aging Parents. 

Kathy has been teaching the Bible since she fell in love with God’s Word almost 30 years ago. She speaks regularly at women’s retreats and events across the United States and internationally. The author of seven books, including five Bible studies, Kathy writes to have something to do while she eats chocolate and drinks coffee. She has a Masters in Christian Education and a certificate in women’s ministry from the Canadian Southern Baptist Seminary.

Hope for the Caregiver: May 27 2018

Show content: 

1. Caregiver Tip of the Day

2. Today's Senior Moment

3. Kathy Howard: Author of 30 Days of Hope When Caring for Aging Parents

Dementia Patients and The Emergency Room/ICU

Author and dementia care expert, Tracey Maxfield RN, joined us for her regular monthly feature.  In this segment, she discussed dementia patients and the ICU and/or Emergency Room.  

Bringing practical tips and insights, Tracey helps caregivers of loved ones suffering dementia anticpate and avoid potential problems and issues that the disorienting world of medical facilities can have on patients with dementia.