From HOPE FOR THE CAREGIVER: Sept 9, 2019
“I’ve Got To…,” “I Need to…,” “You Don’t Understand, I Have To….” “It’s My Obligation to …”
These are all statements made by all caregivers at some point, and, sadly, all too frequently. The feeling of obligation drives us to push ourselves to dangerous stress levels for our health, finances, and emotional stability. The way we can push back is to recognize that we don’t own the problem. Think about it, did you cause the problem? Can you fix this issue?
Stewardship Vs. Obligation
Feeling obligated can quickly take us into resentment, which will only compromise our ability to live healthy lives, as well as serve as healthy caregivers. In reality, as caregivers, we’re stewards and powerless to fix the suffering of our loved ones. Instead of owning the problem, we can instead own the concept of stewardship. Doing so frees us to accept we are doing the best we can with what we have.
Furthermore, adopting an attitude of stewardship, helps us breathe easier and treat ourselves with mercy—all of which equips us to be a better caregiver.